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The Real You – Part 2

#1 – Raise Your Standards

Where did we leave off last?  Oh, yes, we were talking about The Real You.  There is a process of going from who you are today, to becoming your highest and best self – The Real You.  It is a 7-step process:

1.       Raise Your Standards
2.       Fight
3.       Take Leave of Your Senses
4.       Get Dressed
5.       Find Joy Beneath the Tear
6.       Know That Somebody Needs You
7.       Alter Call

This week, let’s take a closer look:

#1 – Raise Your Standards – When things in your life aren’t going the way you want them to, it is usually based on an area of your life where you don’t hold firm – you compromise.  Think of that word – compromise.  By one definition, when you are negotiating or working with others, compromise is a powerful advancing agent – it moves a vision to the next level. 

When you are talking about your values and the things that you need to be disciplined about, then compromise is not a positive attribute.  In this context, Webster’s dictionary defines it as “A weakening or reduction of one’s principles or standards”. 

I have been there.  My resolve to get the Shemar Moore abs begins with an intense workout, supreme nutritional focus.  Until 9:00pm…then the chocolate.  In a word…compromise.

When it involves your adherence (or lack of) to your goals and principles, com-promise means “to break a promise”. 


When you decide to raise your standards, you can no longer except the status quo…things the way they have always been.  You have a yearning and a hunger to see them get better and you were willing to put in the work to do it.  Where does this transformation begin?

In the mind.

When I want to redirect my mind, I engage three things – Release, Repent and Renew.


For most people, who have “tried and tried again” and have not had the success they desire, the first thing they need to do is “release”.  Release the past.  Let it go.  Yes, most of us have tried something and were not successful the first time (that’s the reason it’s called “beginners luck”).  

After an ineffective pattern is repeated often enough, we begin to think that somethings are never going to be possible, and we deem ourselves as “failures”.  I know it sounds cliché, but there really is no failure until/unless you quit.  A missed mark is just an indication it is time for another try…

“Failure is just an opportunity to begin anew… This time more intelligently. “
Henry Ford

While a challenge, you must release any and all negativity toward your opportunities and future possibilities.  You must “forget those things that are behind you and press toward the mark of your prize”! (Philippians 3:13-14)


As with the call to salvation, repent means to “change your mind “.  If things have not gone the way you have wanted, it may be time to break your paradigms. Maybe, you simply need to evolve your approach – try something in a new and different way.  While pursuing a new way, The Bible admonishes against putting something new into something old;

“No one puts new wine into old wineskins; otherwise the fermenting wine will expand and burst the skins, and the wine is lost as well as the wineskins. But new wine must be put into new wineskins.”

Mark 2:22

A new idea put into an unchanged mind will waste a perfectly good idea.  Before you plant the seed of a new idea you must be willing to make a commitment to change…repentance.  Acknowledge that what once worked may no longer be the way. 

Plan forward…move forward.  Change!


Realize this in this moment – Your mind is as powerful as it has ever been.  Even for the committed and disciplined, there comes a time when you must renew your mind.  A time to break with conformity.  A time to break with the thoughts and habits that have hindered your progress to The Real You.  Renewal is a process of cleansing, elimination and restoration – giving you back your mental power and sound mind…peace.

“And do not be conformed to this world any longer with its superficial values and customs, but be transformed and progressively changed by the renewing of your mind.”

Romans 12:2

What is it that you most want out of life? 

Or more directly stated, what are you willing to demand of your life?  What you are willing to fight for, to sacrifice and pursue until it is accomplished?

The simple, most practical way to get it…raise your standards.  Accept nothing less than the absolute best you can give each and every day.  You do that long enough, I promise you will be well on your way to meeting a truly extraordinary person…

The Real You.

Brandon Clay
Vice President, Health Sales
One Life America